Dear Amy: My husband went to a prestigious Ivy League law school.

He has never worn clothing items or hats featuring his school’s logo.

I noticed last year that college-team coaches were wearing nice-quality, very attractive athletic shirts.

I knew my husband, with his trim but muscular build, would look great in one. I found one with a subdued logo for his law school and was excited to give it to him for his birthday. And he looks great in it!

Now that football season has started, I’ve twice suggested he wear it when we go out to casual places — once to a winery and again to an outdoor restaurant with friends. Both times, he made an excuse not to wear it, and so I asked him why.

He has always enjoyed wearing sweatshirts and hats from his undergraduate university, but he admitted he didn’t really feel comfortable wearing this shirt because it would make him look like an elitist.

I think he should be proud of attending this law school. It’s all over his bio and CV, so what’s the big deal if he wears a high-quality shirt with a tasteful logo?

Do you think people generally see this as an elitist thing to do? — Ivy Leaguer’s Wife

Dear Ivy Leaguer’s Wife:

I’m sure that graduates of prestigious schools see this in a variety of ways.

I believe that choosing NOT to trumpet your privilege and prestige in an obvious way (even if the logo is discreet and the prestige is hard-won) is in the spirit of the original intent of some of these institutions: To take your education with you into the world, serving others before you serve yourself.

People who have pride don’t need to advertise it, even if the advertisement is discreet, tasteful and flattering to a trim and muscular Ivy League body. Your husband has explained his reasoning well and with humility. You might take this as a positive example to extend to your own life. Even though it might make a fun reality show (I would definitely watch), you probably deserve better than to identify mainly as an “Ivy Leaguer’s Wife.”